“Fuck Off”

Oh wow! You just heard the most POWERFUL and the most EFFECTIVE phrase in the whole sphere of existence!

No offense to you! But how often do you use this phrase in your daily life?

From the time I wake up until the time I sleep, I almost use it 10 to 15 times a day.

To whom?

That’s the exciting part & the most enjoyable learning I want to share with you.

Read on!!

I have a friend, a best friend whom I call a Philosopher. He is highly inspiring and can almost turn any grave situation into a circumstance of Value and get unlimited takeaways from it.

Had you put anyone else in his life, I am sure they wouldn’t have crossed the age of 20. I can bet on it!

But every time I see him, he is so calm and composed, and just by talking to him, I get an ardent feeling of gratitude, confidence, and whole trust in the process of ‘life.’

So around 15 days back, I called him up. It was almost 9 pm when I called and asked him how he was doing and, you know, just the regular catch-up.

And as our conversation smoothened, I told him how my insecurities keep coming at me and how I am struggling to feel confident with the new path I have recently chosen in my profession. [I quit my Business that was well functioning to follow a slightly varied professional path] and how I am unable to explain to myself or my people why I did what I did.

Because you know — it's tough. If you shut down something that isn’t yielding, that’s understandable. But no one would reason if you shut down something that’s well flourishing — that’s when skepticism takes over. And I agree with their perspective.

So while we were discussing this, he said — “Fuck Off”

For a minute, I was perplexed.

What? Fuck Off?

Do you mean to everyone out there? To people who care?

And then he explained: “No, it's not that. You feel the way you currently do not because of others. It's because of you. Your inner demons, your inner conscience telling you to rethink the decision. The skepticism you have. The feeling of laziness and unprecedented thought process, the emotions you felt after walking past the decision.”

Me: “Uhm.. okay……”

Him: “In life, not everyone has a burning passion. We might think everyone has one. But no. So many people out there want to live a life, earn, provide, have a family, and be settled. But if you have a passion and the guts to follow the path, just say Fuck Off. To everything and everyone that’s stopping you on the way.”

I felt like a light bulb over my head. I cannot comprehend what I felt at that moment. So I just kept going, and after the conversation, I went straight to bed.

The next day I woke up, I felt a bit lazy. It was my 5th day of quitting the business and being in a hustle culture for the past 5 years; I can not stop now. Almost every minute, I should either be creating something, being with people I love, traveling, writing, or doing something that would satisfy my life’s craving and fulfill my creative spirit.

So when I felt lazy to get out of bed, I knew I would hate being lazy a few hours later. Because that is what I felt the previous day. Remembering what my philosophical best friend said, I just told myself: “You know what, Fuck Off! Let’s fuck it!” and got out of bed, took a shower, and started my day.

And to my surprise, I got more done in the next 2 hours than I would have done in a whole day!

I surprised myself!

I Loved the energy and the thrill of being able to beat my own records. I started there and went on and on.

Not feeling like working out? — Fuck Off, boredom. I am gonna do it!

Industry experts are saying it's a wrong time to get into this industry — Fuck off reports, I know my way works! I am gonna do it right!

First few clients say my costs were high — Fuck Off impostor syndrome, they are just the wrong audience

Getting tempted to fall into old traps of Instagram scrolling — Fuck off mobile phone, I am not giving in today

EMI reminders and loan payments coming up? Feeling soo tempted to get back to the clients I already had — with too much confidence — Fuck off devil on the shoulder, it might be late, but I will do it

To people who looked out for me, To people who said, ‘Maybe I was too early, to people who didn’t trust me, to my own insecurities, to my own feelings that were holding me back,

a BIG FUCK OFF!

Phew, its been 10 days, and trust me — this was the best I have ever felt, been, and worked.

Today, as I write this — I feel whole, I feel committed, and I feel in control of my life. I am sure no person or no emotion can hold me back. And I have the most fantastic tool I ever need in my life.

the confidence to say FUCK OFF!

As a gift of goodwill, I got the first deal in my new passionate profession: an advance payment of Rs.1,00,000 in the bank for 8 hours of my time in consulting.

What else can I ask for? The attitude has given me mental peace and stability and a profession that I can mount on without a second thought.

With much Love, Respect, and Gratitude for my Philosopher best friend. Had I not heard the words that day, I have no idea how my path would have been.

I hope this was of value to you. If you like it, do let me know. I would convey the message to my best friend. And if you would like to hear more of ‘Insights in my Life’ stories, do follow and give a clap :D

Until we meet next time,

With Much Love,

$aranya Narayana Moorthy